A great marriage is not when the “perfect couple” comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.” Dave Meurer, “Daze of Our Wives”
Meditation: I remember growing up that my parents were very different from each other, and yet they managed to accept and respect each others’ differences. When my father had to keep certain rituals to manage life, my Mom enjoyed a generous approach to life with the ability to let “five be even”. Their model of marriage gave me the courage to marry cross-culturally and cross-racially. I had witnessed that differences of a couple can be enjoyed and that imperfect parents who enjoy and love each other can be a rich foundation for children to grow up and find their place in life. My West African husband and I sometimes look at each other and say: “What a miracle, this African and this German, twenty years of being married!” We are an imperfect couple who has learned to accept and often enjoy each others’ differences.
Prayer: God of love, You are the One who can hold opposites. Your love is so broad that You delight in humanity in all its diversity. You even delight in our imperfections as they are often just variations of particular ways of being in the world. Thank You for Jesus who expanded the cultural limitations of the Old Testament covenant and who modeled inclusive and cross-cultural acceptance and love. And we are grateful. Amen
Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. 3 Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace. Ephesians 4:2-3