“People deal too much with the negative, with what is wrong.
Why not try and see positive things, to just touch those things
and make them bloom?” Thich Nhat Hanh
The patterns of our society are to always focus on what is wrong:
Doctors screen for pathologies, therapists diagnose mental illnesses,
news reporters only focus on traumatic and catastrophic developments and
teachers give grades based on the amounts of mistakes a student makes.
All of us get conditioned early on in life to fear making mistakes
to hide our imperfections, to judge ourselves and others harshly,
and to always look for what is missing or broken.
How often do parents say to their children: “What is wrong with you?”
when they get annoyed with them, which leaves deep scars in their children’s souls.
Healing work means to see and gently touch those positive things inside of us,
and around us. We look at what is life giving and resilient. We stop seeking deficiencies.
We begin to notice those small blooming changes and stop getting fixated on old patterns.
By letting go of assuming that life, others or myself must be wrong, we begin to touch the mystery of the renewing power of all living things.