There is a trauma trigger response
many don’t know, which is: “Submitting”.
The trauma victims give in and give up
their power to forces that are too powerful
to resist. This seems the only option
at the time for the body and soul
to save themselves.
“Surrendering” sounds the same,
yet it is the opposite experience:
The trauma victims have learned to tighten up,
to freeze or flee or fight in order to control life,
yet then, in a movement of slowing down,
of turning inward, of breathing deeply,
trusting and respecting one’s self again
“surrender” might happen.
The victim becomes a survivor.
A deep peace, a letting go as “surrendering”:
the experience of being held
by self-compassion and love.